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Everything is spying on you. Including me. Especially me.

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I have a great gift idea for those of you who are paranoid (like me!) or who love people who are paranoid (like me!) because no one should be allowed to creep on you without your permission.

That’s right, for only $9.62 you can prevent Russian bots from watching you scroll Instagram on ze toilet. As a bonus, you’ll no longer experience that flash of horror when you open your camera and it’s forward facing and CHINS ALL THE CHINS THOSE ARE YOUR CHINS YES THAT’S WHAT YOUR FACE LOOKS LIKE TO SHORT PEOPLE.

Of course, this only takes care of the camera issue. Your phone is still dropping eaves on you.

I find this incredibly inconvenient because every time I want to have a sensitive conversation with Alex (and let’s be real, all my conversations are sensitive and consist mostly of statements which ought not be uttered aloud) I first have to gather our cell phones and TV remotes, wrap them in a blanket, and stash them beneath a chair cushion in our bedroom.

Which is why we’re never buying a new TV. Because keeping secrets from the remote is one thing– hefting a Smart TV into the other room because I suddenly got a brilliant idea for how to dispose of a body is another.

In a brief lapse of self-preservation, I actually considered buying a Roomba earlier this year. It seemed a better solution than what we currently do, which involves forgetting vacuuming is a thing until it’s too late, clogging the vacuum with red hair and fur, watching it die, then doing nothing about it until we we need to vacuum again. At which point we buy a new one because we’re millennials and our only skills consist of contributing to the moral decay of society.

But I can’t buy a Roomba, because it’s basically a free-range robot that talks about you behind your back to all the other interneted beings in your house. Just imagine. It’s like the adult version of Toy Story. [Read more…]

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So I guess it’s time to flee the country?

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Everyone around me keeps talking about how America is heading for a civil war– so I did what any reasonable citizen would do: I bought a pizza, a bottle of wine, and set out in search of YouTube videos to walk me through the logistics of fleeing the country.

Alex was like “what if we trigger some kind of red flag by searching this stuff?”

But I was like “nah, man– it’s the internet. Any video we watch will already have 4.4 million views.”

Except, no. I’m definitely on some kind of list now, because these videos do not exist. I find this troubling because I can find a video of literally A N Y T H I N G on the internet– so either this vital content is being censored OR the Prepared Among Us are keeping it to themselves because they’re already planning to raid our homes and seize our non perishables as soon as society collapses.

Never one to be bested, I made up for YouTube’s deficiency by spending 7.5 hours of the following workday digging through Doomsday Prepper forums. Thankfully, my anxiety was almost completely alleviated because there’s little to worry about it IF YOU’RE GOING TO BE THE FIRST ONE TO DIE. Once you sort through their inner circle terminology and acronyms the only thing you really need to know is that you’re SOL.

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I’m not sure I’d really want to survive though. Have you even seen 28 Days Later? It’s not the zombies we need to be worried about, it’s the other humans. Worry less about someone wanting to eat your BRAINS and take a moment to give a bit of side eye to those who are trying to control it by filling you up with fear and paranoia and tribalism.

Everyone keeps saying we need to reach across the aisle and IDK, guys. They may be onto something, because the people I tend to ideologically disagree with the most are also the ones with weapon caches, militia training grounds, and industrial sized buckets of slow-decay peanut butter. Believe me, no one is more brokenhearted to realize all those organic 98% cacao chips I’ve been buying for $17.99/lb at Whole Foods aren’t going to be what keeps me alive.

Then again, I guess I’d rather perish like an ill-advised snack than become an inaugural member of Gilead. Think I’m exaggerating? Please, step into my iPhone camera roll, where I have an entire folder of screenshots where people discuss lining Democrats up against a wall for the firing squad, or shooting Muslim women who dare to walk down their street, or how the Bible says it’s okay to rape your wife because lol that is what they are there for! [Read more…]

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Sorry, but I don’t think I actually learned anything in public school

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In honor of all the photos everyone keeps sharing of their offspring on the first day of school, Alex and I got tipsy last night and tried to remember if we actually learned anything in school. I grew up in a world where the godliest amongst us would never send their kids to public school, lest they be exposed to inappropriate messages like coloring sheets that don’t include humans riding on the backs of dinosaurs. But as much as I’m like hashtag thank a teacher, I’m also a little worried.

I began working full time when I was nineteen years old and trying to pay my way through college. During these initial phases of employment I quickly realized I wasn’t the only one who hadn’t learned anything in public school, as two of my coworkers believed Alaska was an island just like Hawaii, and that both were floating somewhere near (or on top of?) Mexico. We were fully independent adult type humans with 401k(s) and health insurance policies but HOW IN GOD’S NAME HAD THEY NEVER STOPPED TO WONDER WHY ONE ISLAND HAD TROPICAL BEACHES AND THE OTHER WAS FULL OF SNOW AND POLAR BEARS?

Possibly because no one ever taught them how to actually think.

I’m trying to figure out where it all went wrong, because while many of us learned how to read in Kindergarten or First Grade, the comments left beneath articles on Facebook would indicate most of us have forsaken this skill.

Here’s what I do remember learning in elementary school: [Read more…]

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I’ve been trying to make friends via the internet and results are mixed

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I realized a couple months back that I need more female energy in my life. And because I’m a big fan of game plans and spreadsheets and strategies, I set out to attract the right kind of gal pal into my life. That is, I downloaded Bumble BFF.

Technically, Bumble is a dating app. I never thought I’d use a dating app because THANK THE OLD GODS AND THE NEW I managed to pin Alex down before Tinder became a thing. But it turns out this same app-based approach works for making non-sexy-times friends as well.

This is tough for me, because I’m a cave troll. I feel so fiercely protective of my time that I wonder whether I even have the ability to sustain any new friendships. But I spend so much of my time (let’s call it 40 hours a week) pretending to be normal and normal-functioning that I need some physical human beings I can sprinkle with all my manic energy. You know that person in your life who goes from office to office or room to room and tells the exact same story over and over in the exact same way and you’re like REALLY COULD YOU NOT?

Well, that’s me. But on the inside. I have all these thoughts stacking up and I’d like to dilute them by spreading them across an even field of friendlies. There’s a good chance this is just an elaborate attempt to ensure Alex doesn’t get sick of me because I simply cannot stop talking about random shite.

So, in case you’re in the same boat, here’s how Bumble BFF works:

Step One: Write your 300 character bio

Mine is something like “Hi I am super fun but hate people a little but am also full of light and love let’s meet for cheese”

Step Two: Upload six photos of yourself

My photos are a lie. You would think I spend my free time tromping about Moroccan villages whilst laughing exuberantly amongst my glamorous and wauldly attrauctive fraunds. It’s not my fault I’m a liar, I just rarely remember to snap photos when I’m fisting cheezits and making spreadsheets of creepy shite no one needs to know about.

Step Three: Set Your Distance Range

For me, like ten miles max. Because driving is hard when all you can think about is how you’re just 1 out of 7,000,000,000 on a blue dot in the vast nothingness of space.

Step Four: Link to Instagram and/or Spotify

Instagram, sure. I pretend to be an interesting person on there as well. But Spotify? HARD PASS. No one needs to know that my #1 artist for a solid two weeks in March was Kesha and/or that I basically listen to the same six songs on repeat (Toto’s Africa, One Night in Bangkok, Elastic Heart, Untouchable Face, Pursuit of Happiness, and Nothing Compares to You).

Step Five: Begin. That is, Swipe

Left Swipe = no thanks, bye. (98% of people get a Left Swipe)

Right Swipe = maybe we’re soulmates, but am I cool enough to be your friend?

After a certain point, the swiping becomes machine-like as every judgmental bone in your body is fully activated. [Read more…]

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Happy Birthday to Me, Now Worry About Yourself

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I have been obsessed with (terrified of?) the passing of time for as long as I can remember. But today is my birthday, and I turn 32, and I’ve always thought this age sounded alright. I worked with a guy at the psych ward who, upon turning 27, was like *fist pump* YASS CELEBRATE because apparently that’s the usual cutoff for when Schizophrenia manifests and he now considered himself in the clear.

So maybe I feel like I’m in the clear for some things. Turning 31 was weird, because that’s the age my mom was when I was born– and I was her fifth child. *cue panic attack*

I remember when I was living in a one room efficiency, about to drop out of college (for the first of many times) and freaking out because I was turning 19 and thought this meant I was getting old. A mental ticker ran through my head– you haven’t done anything with yourself yet.

It was around this time I got the weird idea that age 32 was when I’d get my shit together. I’m not sure why– maybe because it’s a mathematically pleasing number, or maybe because it felt so far away that it gave me a pass to muck around for a bit. And believe me, I spent some time wallowing in other people’s dirt. 

To be fair, this mental ticker tape continues to haunt me. I assumed this was normal, but when I talk about it with other people they tell me they don’t function this way. Yet I’m over here like: [Read more…]

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Podcasts for writers who don’t hate themselves

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I’m going to tell you about my favorite writing podcasts in hopes that you tell me about yours and we can live on forever in an endless cycle of good recommendations. Deal? Also, this is your reminder to go and leave reviews for everything you love– books, podcasts, etc. (for the things you hate, please message me directly because hating on things is amongst my very particular set of skills).  

Print Run

Two literary agents (Laura Zats and Erik Hane) discuss all sorts of publishing-related topics you think they’d get in trouble for talking about with people like us. It’s what I would imagine happening if I snuck into a fancy party for bookish people (which they claim they’re never invited to) and lurked about whilst listening to honest conversations about the literary world.

Tone: feisty with notes of curmudgeonliness and a hint of nerd.

Lasting impact: They had a segment where they talked about the ways in which men describe women in literary fiction– often as “bird like” and now I notice it eeeeverywhere.

Episode that sealed my obsession: The one about Amazon. Fascinating.

Alex’s favorite: The one where they lost bets and had to read aloud from 50 Shades.

Need to know: Their mascot is a loon. #HelloLaura is the future.

Brag: I accosted Laura Zats in a hallway at the Writer’s Digest Conference so I could gush over how much I love the podcast AND I AM NOT EVEN A GUSHER I AM SURLY AND UNAFFECTED OKAY [Read more…]

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I’ve had lots of champagne lately

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Fair warning: I’m going to have exactly zero chill about this. Speaking of chill– I bought a bottle of champagne on Sunday, January 28th 2018 and stashed it in the fridge with a stern warning to Alex that it was not to be touched until I’d signed with a literary agent.

This blip of self discipline probably doesn’t sound like an insurmountable life challenge, but Alex and I are the kind of people who can’t buy cases of wine or more than one box of Girl Scout cookies at a time. Life’s short, you gotta treat yo self with lots of Carpe Yolos and such.

But this was a special bottle of champagne– not just because it cost slightly more than the usual $14 I’m willing to spend– but because I was sending my first round of query letters the following day and I needed a mental good faith investment that I might actually be capable of bringing a desired outcome into my life. The next morning I sent five queries via email and over the next couple weeks I got five rejections whilst congealed juice from a baked sweet potato formed a sad sticky puddle near my neglected bottle of champagne.

I was ripe for intervention, so I bought a query critique from Jane Friedman (if you’re a writer, you’ve probably been on her site at least once. She’s full of resources and pretty much a publishing guru). A week later she sent back an edited version of my query, crossing out all the stupid and useless bits (my words, not hers).

Turns out query letters– JUST LIKE LIFE– are immediately improved by removing things that don’t need to be there.

I sent a few more queries before we went to India and Nepal because travel is a built-in distraction from the angst of waiting. This time, there was some interest and I got to experience the fun of sending my book proposal via iPhone via spotty wifi via Jaipur. When we got back to the states, and I recovered from jet lag, I sent another round. Two days later I got a reply to one of the most recent queries I’d sent, asking to schedule a call. The next day I got on the phone and was offered representation. [Read more…]

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My New Motto is “Trust No One, Enjoy Everything”

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Back when I traveled around SE Asia I encountered a pale white woman sitting cross legged in a matching white kaftan that looked like something out of Dr. Strange’s wardrobe. She had a cigarette in one hand and a can of coke in the other and all my fellow backpackers were gathered around, hanging on her every word as she detailed the spiritual experiences she’d had in India. I only lingered long enough to hear this nugget:

“Once you’ve been to India, the temples in Thailand are shit.”

Obviously I longed to achieve such spiritual enlightenment for myself, and now I’ve done it. Alex and I just got back from spending a couple weeks in India and Nepal and you’re not going to believe my transformation. I left the states a wayward and anxious writer and returned as something I never thought I’d be:

An endorser of essential oils.

You can thank New Delhi for it’s pollution and laws against Sudafed, because I was left treating my sinus infection with a bottle of peppermint oil. And you guys, it totally worked. I’m a believer now. I take back almost everything I’ve ever said about people who use essential oils, except not really so please don’t DM me with an offer for $65 bottles of Nettled LilyPad Juice.

Seriously though– beyond the touring and adventure, I think the greatest value to be found in travel is the experience of connecting with people and a culture you otherwise wouldn’t know anything about. Someone asks a basic question, like “why do so many Americans love guns?” and you’re suddenly explaining The American Revolution and the Civil War. Then it’s their turn to explain their beliefs and their history and about 30 seconds in you begin to realize just how much your own culture has made a caricature out of theirs.

Know this: We’re far more alike than we are different, and the things that make us different are worth exploring and seeking to understand. Don’t listen to anyone who tries to convince you of the otherness of a person or place, because they almost certainly stand to benefit from your ignorance. Don’t let them.

It would be impossible to write a single post about everything that happened on this trip. And if you’re one of my Facebook friends/followers then you’re probably begging me not to, because I already wrote almost daily recaps on there. Instead, I’ll just link to what I already wrote– but photos and slightly-ignorant insights don’t do any of this justice, which is why all of you should probably go and see it for yourself.

I have a feeling my site is going to struggle to load all this, but it’s worth it. Here’s a teaser: Tigers, Gurus, Himalayas, and Wily Youths Smushing Colored Powder All Over My Face.

NEW DELHI

https://www.facebook.com/aussa.lorens/posts/2077223002510336 [Read more…]

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America has a gun problem. But it also has a willfully-ignorant human problem.

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I don’t have kids. This is a thing I’ve thought about. Depending on who asks, I’ll usually answer the “why not” question with something glib and vague– like “well, I like being selfish.”

This weeds people out of the discussion because many already assume I’m selfish and are just looking for confirmation. So, here you go. Bye.

But one of my major hesitations is that I’m terrified by the prospect of having a child. I know I’m writing about something I fundamentally can’t understand because I haven’t experienced it, so I’m speculating. But I feel like having a kid is like taking the purest most innocent part of your soul– the part that was there from the beginning, before the cynicism and nihilism and jaded residue built up– and putting it inside a more vulnerable vessel that doesn’t know how to take care of itself without your help. Then, after a short period of time, you start letting that piece of your soul wander off into the world without you. Out into a world where people are interested in destroying it.

I’m not sure I can handle that. So I guess I’m selfish because I don’t want to invite the vulnerability of worrying whether my child– this soul-bound part of myself– is going to die in a violent moment of terror because the country I was born into prioritizes the earnings of the gun industry over the inevitable profit and loss of a few dozen murdered kids every year.

I’m about to travel outside my country. This is a thing I do. Depending on who asks, I’ll usually answer the “why” question with something glib and vague– like “well, I like adventure.”

But the truth is I like seeing how other humans are doing– and have done– Life. And because nothing expands your worldview and exposes the limitations of your mindset, assumptions, and prejudices quite like getting outside the bubble you were born into.

Most of the time my thoughts want to go ZING BANG POW but instead they’re slowed to a crawl, constantly pausing at mental checkpoints to examine the source of my judgment, the belief informing it, where that belief came from, and whether I might be wrong– which I often am. It’s not fun. It’s so much more comforting to be right, so right, the most rightest, shake your fist and roll your eyes and “ugh, people.”

I came from the same world as most of the humans I find myself arguing with on social media. I know this vicious debate thing is a part of our culture but I’m not particularly good at it, and it’s frustrating because it feels like arguing with a past version of myself.

Or with a frog stuck at the bottom of a well who’ll never be convinced the sea exists.

Just this morning someone told me it’s illogical to compare ourselves to Australia because they have “a very different culture.” First of all, what? Second of all, you’re the person advocating we station armed guards outside schools so kids are safe. Guess where else they do that? Nigeria. Because of Boko Haram. That’s your grand vision for America? [Read more…]

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Can we all agree this is the dumbest question ever?

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Alex is one of those fancy people who wears suits and gets invited to events and parties full of impressive humans, while I’m someone who skulks from table to table, hiding behind a curtain of scraggly red hair whilst fisting cheese trays like an undiscovered breed of cave troll.

But every so often a human will decide– for whatever baffling reason– to try and get to know us. This is a terrible idea. Especially if you’re like the woman who zeroed in on us last weekend to ask the dumbest question in the history of the world:  

Boring Human: “So, what do you do?”

Me: *looks at Alex*

Alex: “We do a lot of things.”

Me: “I think she wants to know how we make money.”

Alex: *makes very generic statement about who signs paycheques*

Boring Human: “How interesting!”

Me: “It’s probably the least interesting thing.”

Boring Human: “So how long have you been doing that?”

Alex: “Making money? Since college.”

Me: “It’s how we pay for things.”

Can we please stop asking this question? Because it’s awkward and I’m old now, so I’m no longer interested in shouldering the burden of others’ regrets when they’ve asked a dumb question. Yes, I have a job and guess what– unless you’re matching what they pay me to act normal for 40 hours a week then all bets are off for this conversation.

But of course she didn’t get the clue, so I decided to do my submissive wife thing and look at Alex to answer every question on my behalf.

Boring Human: “So where do you two live?”

Me: *looks at Alex*

Alex: “We live in Denver.”

Boring Human, not getting the point: “Sure, but what area?”

Me: *looks at Alex*

Alex: “South.”

I wanted to steeple my fingers and ask this lady what her goals were for the conversation. [Read more…]

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I spent $1.25 on a stick because this is who I am now

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Last weekend Alex was sick with what he calls “The Gwyneth Paltrow Diet” aka the trots. When he finally felt a bit better we decided to get out of the house for some low key fun, not realizing we were about to enter– and win– the Bougie Olympics.

We went to Stanley Marketplace aka a gentrified aircraft factory that now houses restaurants and shops that cater to people with very very very specific tastes. Like only serving biscuit based entrees or threadbare t-shirts on clearance for $90. To be fair, I was totally into it. Sometimes you just need to drink beer out of a mason jar while two nineteen year old girls in the next booth discuss their meditation practice.  

After our biscuit dinner we perused the shops. Confession: I like buying woo woo stuff just as much as I like making fun of it (which is A LOT) so when Alex held up a little glass jar full of playground wood chips and said “this costs $39” I was like “let me take a closer look.”

Apparently these wood chips were slivers of holy wood that bring good fortune when burned– if you’ve read any of my travel stories then you know I’ll buy almost anything that combines fire and good fortune. But $39 seemed a bit steep and honestly I’m not sure I need an entire jar of good fortune because life’s traumas and misfortunes are how stories are born and I wouldn’t want to jeopardize that.  

But guess what. [Read more…]

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